In the beginning, they were Marc and Alowetta, two people that had already been around in the world for a while. Not youngsters, but not out of their twenties when they met in small-town New Mexico.
It was a storybook introduction – He was fresh out of college and worked for her father. She was a divorcee with two young children. They had a juicy one-year courtship, where he worked two jobs 6 days a week; she worked a full-time job, had kids to tend to, and helped out in her family’s business. They usually spent some Sundays together while he did his laundry at her house.
They had four real dates.
He spent time with her (large) family at Christmas and managed throughout that year to teach her a few parenting skills.
She traveled to Colorado to meet his parents the next summer. They liked the area, interviewed for jobs and secured them. He proposed in the front seat of the car by saying, “I’m not opposed to getting married if you want to.” To which she responded, “I’m sure my father would prefer that.”
They returned to New Mexico where they married in one week and moved to Colorado the week later.
And so it goes with the life of two very different people, who married for very different reasons and have lived very different lifetimes together in the 35 years they have been married.
Has it been a storybook life? Only if you like fairy tales written by Tim Burton or Stephen King.
It has been hard. And it has been good.
But it hasn’t been ordinary.
And as I write this, we are three years into living in a 40 ft motorhome, traveling and working together in less than 350 square feet.
We have lived in small apartments and large homes. We’ve lived in small towns and big cities, moved seven times, and now have a PO Box as our address.
During that time, we’ve worked at corporate jobs, small business jobs, nonprofit jobs, political jobs, 2nd jobs, trailer park jobs, and our own jobs.
To put it politely, we have lived a lot of life.
We began married life with two children, one who was terminally ill. We lost her 1 ½ years into our marriage at 9 years old. We decided on more children, even though the age difference would be 10 years between the oldest and youngest.
We’ve been through the trials of two working parents with three boys in daycare, school, sports, and teenage shenanigans. They all graduated, have made their way in life, own homes, have wives and children and never went to jail. We feel successful in parenting!
We have been business employees, general managers, executive directors, district managers, senior staff members, minority business owners, and now 100% business owners. Our years of working for others seems a blur sometimes because we both spent our 30s and early 40s working high-profile, high-responsibility jobs, with many more hours than the typical 40-hour workweek.
Do we know it all? Not by a long-shot. Has it happened to us? Probably.
What we want is to share our experiences with you, answer the dreaded questions that you as couple-preneurs may have, and learn from you. Yes, we believe we can (and still want to) learn from other couples who are living and working together.
Join us on the journey – share yours, and learn from others who are navigating the world of living and working together in Married to Business!